What I have come to realise is happiness doesn’t really depends so much on what we have or don’t have. It depends on how we view life, how much we appreciate what we have or what we don’t have.


Sorry I have been a little absent lately. My website was having some hacking difficulties and I have been working on a couple of projects that didn’t allow much time to update Substance!

Over the past couple of days I have been thinking about things to do with my personal life. I’ve now been in Sydney a year and I am so grateful that JD and I took the chance to move here. It’s been such an adventure and a great move career wise.

Because I love to write and give advice I thought I would put some of my thoughts into this article and get your brain thinking. I would love for you to pause and take an assessment of your life right now. Think about your friends, family and partner. Think about other basic necessities in your life that you have – food, shelter, water. You may not realise it, but, all you need, you already have.

All you need, you already have.

Hear me out.

Even though we have all these things, we never see our life in that way. We are always craving more. More adventure, more love, more “things”, more validation and more knowledge (more knowledge definitely isn’t a bad thing!). I catch myself out regularly craving more.We think that what we need is somewhere in the future and It’s so easy to place emphasis on things you don’t have. Sometimes we do this because we set high standards or goals for ourselves, other times we do it because we are dissatisfied with our current situation. It’s so easy to think something is missing in your life and if you had this and that, or if you had “X” experience, you would truly be able to solve your problems. The truth is even with those things, you’re always going to want more. It’s an ongoing cycle that you can’t break.

We often see people living impulsively – buying expensive cars, traveling the globe, buying designer bags, and we wonder, how they do it? I want that too. With social media it’s even more apparent and we’ve become a culture of people who live jealously or vicariously through other people. Our parents would never have seen their friends trips until they met up in person to go through film photos. Our parents would never have seen the latest Chanel handbag purchase from a girl who lived in London.

What I have come to realise is happiness doesn’t really depends so much on what we have or don’t have. It depends on how we view life, how much we appreciate what we have or what we don’t have. Over the past 9 years we’ve had great office jobs and secure wages and then we’ve also quit office jobs to follow our dreams with not so secure incomes – they are two very different ends on the spectrum – but the common denominator there was how much we appreciated what we had. The other thing I found out is you will be amazed of what we can live without.

My advice to you is to keep on learning, show appreciation for the things you have and find out more about yourself because everything that you need in order to be happy, you already have, there is no point in relying on ideal circumstances or objects to fill any voids in your life.

Author: Ally Carey

Hi, I am Ally, a writer and creative at Substance. I have worked in the fashion industry for 6+ years as a model and now on Substance. Substance is a lifestyle blog about fashion, beauty, health and self-improvement; hoping to inspire you to live a life filled with Substance. For more: @AllyMayCarey

3 thoughts on “What Everyone Should Know About Having It All”

  1. Such a beautiful message Ally. I think with the rise of social media so many of us struggle with the constant comparison, which leaves you feeling so depleted. Love your thoughts on being grateful for what we do have and to just live your own life. Thank you for the reminder! I love all that you do XX

  2. a wonderful post! you are so right, the moments with friends and family are much more important than anything else. It makes so much more happy than this “material things”.
    love from germany, kati 🙂

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