When I was four years old, I would lay in bed with my mother of a morning. I would nestle in with her left arm around my shoulders, and a softcover book in her right hand – we would read for hours. My siblings were school age, so for those 8 hours each day, I didn’t have to share her.
Things were simple.
When I became a teenager, things became problematic as I was independent early on and I began to take her for granted. I would go to parties, sneak out and let’s be real, act like a typical I-know-better-than-you-mum teen. Within my teenage years, and I can only say this because of hindsight, I lost sight of the importance of a mother / daughter relationship. Thankfully, these tensions have long since melted away and growing up/becoming an adult has given me so much clarity. I know I am not alone and that the resiliency of my relationship with my mother isn’t unique. Isn’t it funny that the older we get the classic words of “gaining an understanding” could not ring more true? I now have a greater sense of respect and more empathy for my parents than I ever had. In turn, I now have a profound mother-daughter bond.
Over the years she has given me so much advice; from writing to education, to always making sure I moisturise my face and hands – even though I spent my teens studiously ignoring most of her advice, beauty advice is something I always listened to. So, if I can pass on any of Mum’s knowledge it’s to take care of your skin!
I think the difference in an adult relationship with my mum, it is now a shared experiences vs. teachable moments. I still ask her for perspective, but this point, I think she has instilled all my life long morals and values and because I constantly demonstrate these, I don’t feel like she needs to teach me now, which is kind of liberating for me. We now have a friendship compared to our relationship when I was a teenager. There is a mutual admiration and I am so glad it has developed into that. Mum, I know you will be reading this, and I just wanted to say, I am so glad I am your favourite daughter.
What I have learned over my lifetime is nothing can separate a mother-daughter bond. Even through tough times, there is always light at the end of the tunnel and that light comes in the form of endless love.
Today I thought I would share some ideas on how you can spend some time with your mother this Mother’s day, or the next time you get to see her. Let us be grateful to the mothers and fathers of the world. The parents who have raised us, loved us, and taught us how to be the best we can be.
Things to do with your Mum
- Spend an afternoon with your mother, sorting through cherished photographs and mementos. Use those items to design a collage or scrapbook that you can both reflect on and add to as the days go by. Ask who people are in the photographs so you can pass this on through the generations
- Write down her favourite recipes or her mother’s favourite recipes
- Share stories and write a journal so you have the memories to read back over years to come
- Spoil her: My favourite thing to buy my mother, and she will back me up here, is beauty products. I have always bought her hand creams, moisturisers, perfume, et al. Mum, stop reading now, you’ll ruin your present. This year I have this incredible SK-II Limited Edition Radiance Gift Set and Facial Treatment Essence to give my Mum – I have loved using SK-II myself the past 6 weeks, so I thought I would spoil my Mum with something luxurious this year. It’s the perfect gift and the cherry blossom ‘Sakura’ packaging is stunning. I hope my Mum doesn’t pick up on the fact the face masks are going to be missing. SK-II has 3 different limited edition gift sets and a Facial Treatment Essence for Mother’s Day this year. Each set contains SK-II’s best-selling product, Facial Treatment Essence, containing over 90% of SK-II’s signature ingredient, Pitera™. This helps to transform the skins texture, radiance, firmness, spot control and wrinkle resilience – which you can read more about in my skincare blog post here.
The SK-II Mother’s Day Facial Treatment Essence and Gift Sets are available at SK-II counters in Myer and David Jones across Australia from mid-April 2017 onwards from RRP $99. The Radiance Set is RRP $265.