We can all pretend that talking ourselves out of something because we think we’re unprepared, not ready for something or too old for something doesn’t matter, but the truth is, it does matter.

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The other day I planned to write after I had finished all my work and errands for that day. I love writing and I really just wanted to get something down because it was the first opportunity I had had in a while to write freely. Sometimes I will write for my blog, other times I will write just for me. I really believe that if you are passionate about something, then you should be allowing yourself to do this weekly, if not daily.

When it got to the time I had allocated myself to write, I immediately began making excuses in my head as to why I shouldn’t. I was too tired, It wouldn’t be good anyway, I had other things to do etc, etc. The list was endless. It would have taken me less time to pen something, than the time it took making excuses.

The day after I thought about all the excuses I had made on my way to the gym. Why was I putting these limits on myself? Why was I talking myself out of doing something I really wanted to do?

I am sure you have been through something similar, after all we’re all human. Maybe you have talked yourself out of starting a new exercise regime because you think it will be too hard. Maybe you have talked yourself out of beginning a side project you’re passionate about, in fear of failing?

FIVE THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO YOURSELF

  1. I’m not good enough
  2. I’m not ready
  3. I’m too old
  4. It’s too late
  5. I can’t do it

The voice we hear in our head tries to reason with us, and we think we’re taking the most practical, sensible approach, but really, we’re hindering ourselves in bigger ways than we realise. The small things are the big things. These limitations dictate how we spend our lives.

The small things are the big things. These limitations dictate how we spend our lives.

We can all pretend that talking ourselves out of something because we think we’re unprepared, not ready for something or too old for something doesn’t matter, but the truth is, it does matter. It matters because self doubt and fear builds up over time and that will eventually paralyse you from doing anything you love or from executing any new ideas you have. So, my advice to you, based on my own experiences is to listen to your curiosity and begin saying yes.

I am a big believer in doing things you love, even if that means that what you’re producing is not as perfect as you want it to be. This is advice I like to remind myself of. It’s easy to forget this, so it’s nice to write it down and remind yourself of it once in awhile.

Start holding yourself accountable and try not to make excuses – supporting your interest is the first step in moving towards accomplishing what you want to get done / accomplish in your life.

Things I am trying to learn / accomplish right now? Learning photography and increasing my exercising! What about you? Let me know in the comment section below!

Ally

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Author: Ally Carey

Hi, I am Ally, a writer and creative at Substance. I have worked in the fashion industry for 6+ years as a model and now on Substance. Substance is a lifestyle blog about fashion, beauty, health and self-improvement; hoping to inspire you to live a life filled with Substance. For more: @AllyMayCarey

1 thought on “5 Things You Should Never Say To Yourself”

  1. Love this post Ally! I’m trying to accomplish positive self talk instead of the typical “you can’t do this Sarah”. Thanks for inspiring me!!! XXX

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