The more I become aware of who I am, the more I love I am not the person, who at 16 I thought I had to grow up to become. Here is what I have learned.
I still don’t know where my life will take me and that’s kind of exciting. I’m completely fine with not having it figured out. It’s pretty apparent I am not alone on this and that people in general usually have no clue what they’re doing. We’re all still learning and evolving.
I am still so far away from figuring everything out but I think my twenties have been such a learning curve thus far. I have lived in four different places, changed careers, started my own business, got married and I have overcome some major challenges – I feel like a different person than I did 6 years ago. I am a person who knows things aren’t the end of the world. I am now a person who takes chances on things and most importantly, myself. I am now a person who sticks to things I believe in.
I have learned so many things I wish I had have know when I was younger, because in turn, they may have made things easier, but I guess that is all apart of growing up. Today, I thought I would share some things I have learned in my 20s – maybe some are similar to yours.
LEARNING IS KEY
I was in top classes in high school, but I was bored, so I didn’t always apply myself in my studies, with the exception of English or Art. Now that I am in my 20s I have rediscovered my love of learning. This is because now I get to learn about things I have invested in and want to learn about. Never stop learning and use this knowledge to develop a skill set. Skills never go away. If you’re at Uni make sure you apply yourself, but always take time for yourself in those stressful times!
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YOU HAVE TO WORK HARD TO GET WHAT YOU WANT
I was chatting to a friend the other day and I was saying how when I was in years 10 through to year 12, I didn’t really know what to expect in the “real world”. What 16-17 year old would, right? Over the past 6 years I have worked hard to reach goals, and I will continue to do so because I love working and have dedication to achieving things I want to achieve. I have definitely learned that success doesn’t happen overnight and that the only person in control of your future is you, so you better damn hustle.
HEALTH IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN APPEARANCES
When you’re a teenager your perspective is a little warped when it comes to appearances vs health. You’re so desperate to fit in that you never really consider the ramifications of your actions. Two years ago I had a large cyst removed from my tongue. I still have the scar and also the memories of how painful it was. I stupidly left the cyst on my tongue and kept putting off going to the doctors. I finally bit the bullet one day and got a referral and then had the procedure done. Test result came back and it was benign, but the doctor warned me that if I had have left it any longer it would’ve turned cancerous. That was a huge wake-up call for me, so now I always go to the doctor when I feel like something is off.
LOVING YOURSELF IS HARD
Your 20s are all about “finding yourself”. Well, that’s what they tell you. It’s so hard to have confidence in yourself when you are still figuring out who you are. I have had countless days riddled with anxiety – but you have to learn to be kinder to yourself and learn to accept yourself for who you are.
WE’RE ALL BIASED
Your 20s is when you begin to develop your beliefs and also start to question others. If Facebook is anything to go off, then it goes to show that we’re all pretty damn stubborn with our beliefs and opinions of things. This doesn’t mean that other people’s perspectives are wrong though. It’s so refreshing to hear what other people have to say. So, one thing I have learned is letting go of the need to be right. You can still have your point of view without belittling other people’s perspective – agree to disagree and be done!
A PLAN CAN BE ADJUSTED
I have spoken about the importance of goal setting a host of times here on Substance. I have also spoken 5 year plans a little bit too. I think they’re great as a loose guide, but know that you can adjust plans to work in with your growth and life changes. Don’t be so set on one path – allow yourself to grow and go with the flow too.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE
Friendship is so important. You quickly realise after school what you are looking for in friendship. Make sure you hold on tight to people who are honest, loyal and compassionate. They’re keepers.
You really need to make sure you put in effort to friendships – I know this gets hard with busy schedules and general life, but nothing beats chatting to friends – your brain needs it!
Another thing I have learned is that you won’t have as many friends as you do in your teens – this is perfect though because you know they’re lifelong deals!
PEOPLE AREN’T PERFECT
It’s easy to think at first glance that a person lives a seemingly perfect life. The truth is everyone have their own things going on. Just because someone travels a lot or owns a business, doesn’t mean they don’t have their own challenges.
I may look like I have a perfect life based on my IG account (I love my life), but I still have plenty of challenges and ups and downs – I just choose not to post that kind of stuff on IG because it’s a happy, creative place for me.
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